The first, and most important, thing to remember is that people with substance use disorders can get well – and so can their families. You've survived together through major crises. You now have the chance to repair family bonds.
Families long for the time when the person with the addiction will get help, stop drinking and taking drugs, and begin recovery. When this finally occurs, families feel great relief.
After the person attains sobriety, you may experience a "honeymoon period." All seems well, and you have good feelings toward one another. Conflicts and problems seem to be gone, and you have great expectations for the future. You may even feel like you're walking on air.
Hopefully this feeling will continue. But as the weeks go by, many complicated feelings may come to the surface. This reaction is natural — you've been through a lot and you need to adjust. Every family will need to make adjustments, on top of the huge changes the family has already made. It may not be easy, but there are others who can help you.